Cross roads are part of life's journey.
The point where you don't know if the right side is the place to turn or the left and at such moments, you end up so gloomy and probably hurting the closest  sets of people to you.

A pause right there.
I recently asked myself what I would consider a successful life.
One truth is that every one is on his or her own journey of life and for racers, they know when they have won a race.

Success should not be a vague expectation, a mirage or something in the near future brought to you by 'que sera sera'.

If success to you is not defined, you will be likened to someone on a track looking at some one else's lane.... Which might just be a different terrain

Success to Vera might be a PhD,  while success to Michael might be the ability to make his first one million dollars before the age of 40.

Why am I all of a sudden trying to be philosophical?  No I am not. Being happy at your success or achievements starts from your definition.  You will need to ask your self "How will you know when you get there"

Define what success is
Map out realistic plans of how to achieve the intended
Don't give up on yourself because Cross roads will come up, challenges will emerge
But one thing you have to do at such times is to look at what you have defined in the past and stick to it.
Lastly,  don't be too hard on yourself.  Life is flexible, so you should be.

... Yes,  the very last one. When things seem gloomy and you feel you and your life is ugly,  remember what you have achieved in the past and remember that your current achievement is someone's dream.

Do you think you don't have any achievement?

At least  I know you can read and there are thousands of people who dream to be literate.

Don't be too familiar with your self and success to the extent that you trivialise them

Come out of the gloom and face forward. Be defined.

Isioma Kentra Ikede

It's Christmas eve, I can hear the sounds of fire crackers and churches singing Christmas songs...its 24th of December but it's not the same feeling for everyone. Some are really excited, some are confused, some are really sad. It's just a day.

I am in my in law's place and it is not the Christmas as usual.

Why?

Kentra is gone . Kentra had her second son in august 2014 when it was discovered that she had a tumour in her brain. It could not  even operated on because it was close to her spine. Some how she started chemotherapy after it was found out that the tumour was cancerous.

Her marriage to my brother in law would have been 3 years by the 30th of December 2014 if she did not leave this world on the 19th of December.

Christmas is not the same without her, we all miss her.

Her 2 year old kept on  calling on her and I wondered if she was still around.

Wish she could wake up some how. Hmmmm

Adieu Kentra
18th of April 1984 - 19th of December 2014